A thank you to the Etowah Ministerial Association for asking me to present today. It is always a privilege to do so, but even more so since April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Being educated about the realities of sexual assault is important for everyone, but especially for pastors who may one day be called upon to provide spiritual care for a victim or family.
It is critical for clergy to be familiar with resources before they are needed. The best defense is always a good offense. Thank you for taking time to come out and for inviting me in to speak. But, not only do I thank you, but so do the people that you serve.
For more information about the work we do and our awareness programs, please email us at hello@hopeforhealing.org
Hope for Healing.org Blog
All about the outreach programs and activities of Hope for Healing.Org. Check for the latest updates on how we help sexual or domestic violence survivors, train clergy, work with restorative justice kids and where we'll be setting up sexual or domestic violence displays next. View updates for our Blog Talk Radio program Voices of Hope. Always lots going on here...
Tuesday, April 21, 2015
Saturday, March 08, 2014
I didn't know it was domestic violence - guest blogger
Inhale, exhale. My heart is pounding in
my chest because I'm writing this so please bear with me. I decide to
write this guest blog to tell my story. I'm not going to name drop
because some family members still refuse to accept what they saw as
abuse.
No one told me that what happened was
domestic violence. I had a mom, dad, brother and a sister that I love
very much. In many ways, I am still a scared child. It's hard for me
to separate the love from the hurt. Our parents are gone now but my
siblings and I are all in recovery in each of our own ways.
Growing up, the school taught me about
good-touch, bad-touch. They said it was abuse if someone touched me
where my swimsuit would cover it up. Nobody said anything about
somebody touching you where jeans and a shirt would cover up.
That's what they taught me at school.
The touch I learned at home was different. I call it now the shut-up
touch. Whenever one of us came to close to talking about 'family
business' our parents had a way of shutting us up. Pinches, hits,
slaps... this is what I knew.
My friends families were the same way.
They didn't say so but you could hear their parents yelling. Across
the street, down the street, behind my house, it was all the same. My
parents yelled and hit each other. Their parents yelled and hit each
other. We went around pretending that it wasn't happening or that it
wasn't any big deal. It was like we were in a movie or something.
I'm changing all that now. It's taken
me two bad relationships and a million dollars worth of therapy to
get where I can write about it. When the therapist first said it was
domestic violence it blew me away. I was like um okay whatever etc. I
looked it up online and had some more sessions with her. Damn. It did
fit. :(
When you're dealing with crap there's
nobody that can tell you what to do. You have to be ready to deal on
your own time. There is no fairy godmother that's going to do it for
you.
Things are okay now though. I've come
through it and learned a lot. I'm not being robbed of my self-esteem
hourly and for a couple years life has been really good. I'm with a
good man who loves me now. He wants what's best for me and I want the
same thing for him. My husband's family was the same so we both know
what violence does. We talk and when we disagree we get some space
and talk when the dust settles.
Our daughter will be two and she has a
happy place to call home because we are making it work. There isn't
any more domestic violence in my home anymore. I guess that's what I
wanted to say.
A.J.M.
Originally published 9/24/12
Originally published 9/24/12
Wednesday, January 15, 2014
A word about sponsorship links
For as long as anyone can remember, sponsorship variations have been a key way for nonprofit organizations to raise funds. For organizations like Hope for Healing. Org some of those sponsorship opportunities have included text links or other advertising placements on the website. This was a common and accepted practice for years.
With our closure, we no longer have need of sponsorship links nor are we accepting requests. All fulfillments have been honored. Being here with everyone has been a humbling unmatched experience. Given Gayle's health issues (our director) and funding situations, it is necessary that we sadly close our internet presence - the first and last doors of our journey. Our thrift shop and offline presence ceased a few years ago. Dissolution wasn't anyone's first choice although it is necessary.
With our closure, we no longer have need of sponsorship links nor are we accepting requests. All fulfillments have been honored. Being here with everyone has been a humbling unmatched experience. Given Gayle's health issues (our director) and funding situations, it is necessary that we sadly close our internet presence - the first and last doors of our journey. Our thrift shop and offline presence ceased a few years ago. Dissolution wasn't anyone's first choice although it is necessary.
The internet is constantly changing and evolving. It is a very different place now than it was just a few years ago. Recent changes across the internet may now be penalizing some sites that purchased or sold advertising links or online sponsorships.
Links were a widely accepted practice a few years ago. Now it's a big no-no to some search engines. The search engines aren't trying to knock nonprofit organizations out of funding or hurt agencies that serve victims of domestic violence. They're just trying to do business like we were. Their changes probably didn't help us much either.
What they are trying to do is make the internet a more user-friendly place by burying crappy sites at the bottom of the pile. Any action has unintended consequences. Some (not all) nonprofit blogs have gotten caught in the mix.
Thanks for your helping us help survivors of sexual and domestic violence and their friends and family. Your support was vital.
If you've sponsored us online and want the link removed, just let us know. If you want the link to remain, then there is nothing that you need to do. Please comment on this post if you wish your link to be removed. Our volunteer will be checking as she is able.
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